What was the effect of the war on some colonial families?

Pleas be specific and i need the answer to be reasonable. Thankyou!

Initially, northerners did not want missouri to be included in the union because 1.) maine would not be allowed to enter the union as a free state 2.) missouri wanted to enter the union as a free state 3.) missouri wanted to enter the union as a slave state 4.) maine would not be allowed to enter the union as a slave state