You see a friend of yours at a store, and her eyes are red and full of tears. you immediately go over to comfort her, assuming she has had another fight with her boyfriend. as you get to her, you ask what that "awful guy has done to her now." your friend acts surprised that you would criticize the "love of her life." when you ask why she is crying, she tells you that her allergies are really acting up, and she is at the store to buy some allergy medicine. your error with your friend occurred because you