How can family members effectively solve problems together? ?

Deal with each others problems in person. Everyone needs to accept everyone's faults including their own. Make sure none of you blame each other. Always forgive those family members who have wronged you to do so. Everyone needs to identify the real problem. Make sure you ask questions to draw a family member out. The family needs to be able to have an open line of communication or recognize when family problems need to be discussed. There is much more I could say. So hope this helps!