Adeline, age 90, still drives her car to the senior center every friday. last week she tells you that someone you know from her church died. when you ask her for the person's name, she says, "she sits near the front and always has a hat on." clearly adeline has better memory than memory.

either two or three

just be there for her.

explanation:

not necessarily literally but figuratively. also don't say things like "i understand how you feel", because even though you are trying to , you clearly don't understand how she feels (i'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume you've never had a heart attack). also just let her rest. that is one of the best things for you to do.