Now most people that will tell you not to have sex until marriage probably havenât had a lot of sex outside of marriage, and will give you some answer like because itâs a sin or you are breaking a commandment or something like that might not make a whole lot of sense to you. I on the other hand have had A LOT of sex outside of marriage and Iâm here to explain to you very practically why you should wait to have sex until marriage, so practically in fact that you wonât even be able to dispute me because youâll know that Iâm right. Whether you choose to do it, well thatâs up to you. I canât do your push ups for you I can only show you the way. So letâs get started shall we?
#10: Sex masks problems: When youâre having sex in a relationship whatâs the point in really evaluating it? Why would you? Youâre giving each other what you need. You might wonder sometimes if youâre in love or if you could spend the rest of your life with this person but you never really forced to look deeply. However when youâre not having sex you are forced to really examine it. Let me give you an example. My last relationship I was having sex with my girlfriend and I wasnât sure if we were really in love or built to last I think I said. So I cut it off in the middle of it. And guess what, all the real issues came right up to the surface. Because when youâre not having sex itâs like: well I want to have sex again, and I know you want to have sex again, and if weâre REALLY in love, then letâs get married. But if weâre not, letâs stop wasting each otherâs time. Because you could waste years of each otherâs lives, just having sex.
#9: Marriage allows you to evaluate your real feelings: So you start talking about no sex before marriage and everyone freaks out because it sounds extreme. But if I were to say no sex before love that sounds more reasonable right? Something you can get your head around. Well the next question would be how do you know if youâre in love? My answer would be you know if youâre in love because youâre willing to marry the person to have sex with them. Because no one is going to marry someone just to sleep with them. Thereâs a verse in the bible that reads the heart is deceitful above all things and it basically it tells us that our hearts will deceive us into believing something thatâs not true so we give our flesh what it wants. Imagine youâre dating someone and you say to them Iâm in love with you letâs have sex. And they say back to you I love you too, but letâs get married first, you would be like whoa, hold up let me think about this right? Thatâs a whole different conversation because we know marriage is hard to get out of. And thatâs what the purpose of marriage was always for, to allow us to evaluate our real feelings to see if we were really in love so we didnât get stuck with someone that we werenât in love with.
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