How do I get my bf to be more romantic/affectionate with me?

talk to him.

Explanation:

your bf is not a mind reader, he cant fix what he doesnt know is broken. id sit him down and tell him straight up what you want and why.

why as in- explaining you guys are in a relationship and that includes physical affection too.

There needs to be a paradigm shift within yourself if you want to see a substantive change in your relationship.

Firstly, you need to acknowledge that everyone expresses love, compassion, and romance differently. From what I’ve gathered, he seems to be the primary bread-winner in this relationship. If this is true, have you considered that those gestures of financial reliance may be his way of expression?

I might also add that all forms of aggression are provoked in some way, shape, or form. From how dismissive to suggestions he appears, it may seem like your incessant asking for “more romance” and “to be a gentleman” is undermining the value that he feels he currently adds to the relationship. I’d recommend taking a step back, evaluating the relationship as a whole, and coming to a more objective view as to what you both bring to the table.

Secondly, objectively speaking, what you’re asking him is to become subservient to you. Are you in a mutually beneficial relationship or is he your servant? Asking someone to be romantic and asking someone to hold open your door are two separate things.

Lastly, STOP trying to mirror the fictional relationship that society exposes you to. A relationship shouldn’t be a comparison of what you see other people do and what he does. Incorporate open communication, hear his thoughts and concerns, and create the relationship you want — don’t copy what you see.

Cheers